It is the point of the day where the house is seemingly quiet. The baby is dreaming and the husband is working away, and all I hear is the hum of the dishwasher. And these days, when all you hear is the dishwasher, that dishwasher is humming a tune. And it is a beautiful thing. It signals the end of a long day and a few moments to myself. And sometimes it makes me want to do a happy dance. And tonight is one of those nights. Mostly because the sound of the dishwasher means the dishes are being washed and those still left on the counter have nowhere to go. So they sit. And I now have an excuse to write because
I have to wait for the dishwasher to finish before I can finish my evening tasks. And then I do my happy dance.
I have hesitated writing about becoming a mommy for many reasons, most of which consist of trying to keep my baby alive, fed, happy, and healthy, while also maintaining the housework, errands, and chores. But there is a list of other reasons: fear of what others might think of what I have to say, coming across as yet another opinion on how to mother, and not really knowing what to say. After all, I just started this journey of motherhood four months ago. But tonight, while the dinner dishes are still on the counter and there is a load (or three) of clean clothes to fold, there was a tug on my heart pulling me out to my happy place on the porch to write. So here I am. And now that I have arrived, I am reminded of how much I love this place, the warm summer air on my face, with nothing but thoughts in my mind and the keystrokes at my finger. Pure bliss.
Oh how I have missed writing....
They say first-time mothers nest, prepare the nursery, get everything ready, take the birthing class, and by the time that first baby arrives, things are good to go. They say if you do these things, you will "be prepared."
My water broke at exactly midnight two weeks before my due date. As I got out of bed and began putting last minute items in my hospital bag wondering if these pains were in fact contractions, Scott googled "how to know if your water broke." After about thirty minutes, I decided that these pains were probably contractions and we should probably make our way to the hospital. All the while Scott was still goggling "how to know if your water broke." All in all, I think we nailed the basics of that birthing class, but if I could do it all over again, I might save the $75 and let my husband do the googling because when in doubt you are in labor, the internet is bound to have the answer.
To top it all off, the crib was on backorder, the car seat was delivered earlier that day and thus was not installed (it was more like thrown in the back of the car with the tags still on it), and we had not finalized a name. So basically, we were fully prepared rock-star first time parents.
I would like to say that our lack of preparation was due to the fact that I was incredibly sick most of my pregnancy. While true, it is probably more due to the fact that my husband and I are not the most decisive people on the planet. And for some reason, becoming pregnant and having a baby has made me not so Type A. An attribute I am not complaining about. Maybe it's because babies don't have an agenda. And quite frankly they don't care about yours....so ready or not.....
People say becoming a mom is difficult. And yes, being a mom is not for the faint of heart. However, I have found myself really enjoying being a mom. To my surprise, the transition has gone pretty smooth and motherhood has quickly become one of my greatest joys.
So, if you ask me if I love being a mom, the answer is yes. If you ask me what it's like, you will have to stay tuned. I plan on unpacking more thoughts on this journey called motherhood and life lately soon because it feels great to be writing again. But for now, the dishwasher has stopped singing and my evening tasks are beckoning me away.
Until next time be blessed.....